Earlier this year, I was not in a great place in my marriage or my life. I was struggling more than I had been in years, and I knew I needed a change....Though I was not considering ending my marriage, I was concerned that we may live the rest of our lives together unhappy. The daily snips, the miscommunications, the misunderstandings, and the resentment from both of us were wearing me down. I wanted to feel connected, I wanted to be willing to be vulnerable, and I wanted to participate in a loving partnership as we moved out of the 'having little kids' phase in our life. I did not know how to make that happen, even after trying hard on my own.
Things in my marriage have drastically changed. Just this weekend we had a long conversation about our wants and needs, and it didn't end with me stomping off because I felt unheard or frustrated. I was able to say things to my husband in a way that I could not before- and he was able to respond in ways that he would not have before. It took lots of intentional guided work on my end for the past few months...and for me it started with myself, how I approached my work, how I parented, and how our home functioned. After the foundation of all of those things were set - and also along the way- I was able to be present in a completely different way in my marriage. My work changed our relationship, and it has been life altering. I know there will still be challenges, but I also know how to navigate those bumps in the road with the techniques, resources, accountability and completely new outlook I have on myself.
It is hard to describe in words how vastly different I am from a few months ago. I am now a better version of myself. I am able to live my daily life feeling centered and with intention. I have a vision of what my life will look like from here on out -- a vision that I truly love. I have direction, and solid ways to implement that direction. I have a community of like minded people, and accountability to my shifted mindset both from myself and others that understand. Every one of my relationships experienced a positive change. I can set boundaries that work for me, and still fully engage in my friendships, with colleagues, with my kids and with my husband. I have embraced the changes I needed to make with an open mind, and Jenny helped me map out the places I needed to focus on and gave me direction on how to make that happen. I wanted change, even though that can be scary....but I was willing because I wanted a more deeply connected marriage and to find the things that were missing in my life. I cannot say how beautiful and life-altering this transformation has been. This program was everything I was looking for (even though I wasn't sure what exactly I needed... I just knew I needed *something*) and MORE!
I have done lots of individuals therapy over the years, and with much success. It has set me up to be in a place that I could be ready to do the work I did in this program with the amount of change that resulted for me. But, I had been looking for more. I wanted to dig deeper, and even my wonderful therapists were not guiding me in that direction. I wanted to understand more about myself. I wanted to take accountability in order to live a more fulfilled life. I could not find a therapist that could take that approach with me, and certainly not anyone who could help me make that much progress within a few months. The consistent nature of Jenny's program along with the amazing way she can get to the heart of what you need with love and effectiveness is unparalleled.
And I will say it was the best unplanned investment I've ever made, hands down! There is no way I can place a value on what I've learned. I had to get creative to come up with the money, and now that I'm done and understand how things are on the other side, I would have paid even more for the things I gained in this program. I originally decided to do a call with Jenny to see if there was potential for me to improve my marriage. When I realized that all the other parts of my life could improve as a result of this program too, I was sold. The icing on the cake has been that I think of money completely differently now and that shift alone will more than paid back in a lifetime of higher income potential for me. I'm SO glad I made the decision even though it was a leap for me to spend the money.
Simply put, this program is magical. But not magical in a way that is vague- it is intentionally created, thoughtfully implemented, brilliantly guided, and wonderfully supportive. The work is methodical, deep, high level, and well outlined. The work is your own. But you have Jenny's shining light to help you every step of the way- and wow, is she there to serve you! And the results are simply magical!
Yes, he knows for sure that the frequency of our home has changed, that our communication has changed, and that our intimacy has changed. All of this without me saying in particular what I was doing or how I was making it happen. But I know he sees the change because out of the blue the other day he said to me "You are working so hard, and I appreciate all the things you are doing". That was the biggest compliment after months of my own work that he could see the difference and share that observation. I'd say that I'm not working harder than before- just smarter!
