Day 3 while he was in the hospital we learned (SURPRISE!) that I was pregnant!
By some miracle and a great surgeon, his bones were salvaged and he returned home in a wheelchair to face 6 more surgeries over the next few years and I learned to care for him and his injuries while pregnant and sick as a dog.
Baby came and when our son turned 4 years old he was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. During this time, my husband and I were already facing challenges...financial, emotional, and otherwise...all typical of a new marriage but boy was it tough with so little time on the front end to even get our bearing!
The next 8 years were incredibly difficult as we struggled to pay for things like insulin for our son, create some connection between the two of us (while we were both earning multiple graduate degrees while working during the day), and just stay on top of the demands of life.
I found myself resentful, tired and disconnected feeling like I was selfish for even feeling these things and experiencing grief for the hardships in those first years of marriage.
I tried all of the things...books, retreats, therapy, spiritual teachers...to try to shift things. The books made sense but didn't help since husband wasn't reading them too. I would try to be different for a few days and then fall back into the old pattern. I had two couples therapists tell me that we should just get a divorce. But that did not seem like an option given our young son's medical needs at the time so I just kept muscling through.
After working clinically for over 10 years specializing in couples and going to all of the couples and sex therapy trainings, I saw that there was something missing. The missing piece was what I was eventually able to create in my own marriage (that many therapists told me would not be possible).
I decided to take my LIVED EXPERIENCE and professional training and create something EXTRAORDINARY and new that would walk accountable women, step by step, into the absolutely highest version of themselves. I knew that if I taught this process then a woman would be able to do it on her own again, again and again.
Today I have helped more than 200 women in the past 5 years follow this process...and I am opening the doors to you too.
These pictures that you see here of our happy faces are not because it has been easy or we have a trust fund that supports us. These are happy faces of people who did their own work...I did mine and let my husband do his (and kept my fingers out of his process!). My lovely life in Mexico has been the result of years of learning how to show up again and again as my 2.0 self and not the old 1.0 version of me that was resentful, disconnected, avoidant and angry.
I invite you to step into this self-study experience today. Become the woman that you know you are meant to be. Enroll now.