A juicy story that includes the cartel. 🤫😲😬

Major life transitions often tempt us to control every outcome. But lasting peace doesn’t come from figuring everything out. It comes from learning to trust yourself, listen to your inner wisdom, and move through uncertainty one step at a time.

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This is one of my fav family photos. It was taken just over 5 years ago, right before our lives took a totally unexpected detour.

[For those of you new to me, in July 2019 my husband, 17yo son, and I sold everything, left our lovely home in Denver, CO, walked away from our steady predictable jobs, and moved to La Cruz de Huanacaxtle, Nayarit, Mexico – about 30 min north of Puerto Vallarta – for an adventure. And an adventure we had!]

Our son graduated from a high school in Nuevo Vallarta and bravely started university in Guadalajara in 2021. He was living with another student in off-campus housing exploring the city of eight million people as a non-native Spanish speaker. #braveAF

My husband and I had purchased a fixer-upper on the beach in La Cruz 🏝️ that closed February 26, 2020 and we’d been remodeling it (which was HILARIOUS to do #1 in Mexico and #2 during 2020 when…well, you remember).

🤩 By March 2021, the remodel was almost complete, we were settling into what we had anticipated to be our for-the-next-long-while-home, our kid was just four hours away navigating a new life, and we were starting to exhale a bit a la empty-nesters. It was time to start coasting a bit! 😝🤣😂

Six weeks later, everything changed.

When Everything Changed Overnight

Here’s the super quick story:

A questionable character purchased the home two doors down from us and after a few months it was made evident that she was unhinged with strong ties to the cartel (read: people with guns). Legit threats were made. We left nine days later.

🍌Those nine days were bananas.🍌

Neither my husband nor I are highly nervous people (reference selling everything, leaving stable careers, and taking your 17yo to Mexico his junior year in high school.).

We both largely live in a way where we trust ‘things’ to work out, assume best intent, and let the adventure of life have its way with us.

However, although I had a BELIEF around ‘trusting life’ I was still gripping-clenching-pushing-think-think-thinking while things worked out. While my husband is skilled in the float-surrend-allow method. ← His strategy is WAY better than mine, btw.

Anyway, it was a deeply uncertain time for us both and not just because we were squarely in harms way before we jettisoned from our Mexico dream life.

We had JUST settled in to a home that we no longer felt safe in and had no idea where we were going.

None.

Why I Thought I Had to Figure Everything Out

My parents invited us to stay in their guest room in Southern Arizona. Within days Greg packed up our Honda Ridgeline with everything that could possibly fit, leaving enough room for our pup Jane in the back seat, and he headed north.

I filled three large suitcases, bought a one way ticket back to ‘Merica, and locked up the house leaving a key with a dear realtor friend in Vallarta and left.

For a woman like me who loves freedom, I learned that there is such a thing as too much freedom sometimes.

I spent countless hours trying to FIGURE IT ALL OUT. ← My love affair with Zillow was in full swing back then! Oh Zillow. I still loooove you! 😍🥰😘

Thinking-thinking-thinking because I believed certainty lived in the next answer instead of trusting myself in the uncertainty.

What My Body Already Knew

Even though I TEACH about choosing your thinking-feeling-doing-believing and know that we are always creating an energetic signal through our thoughts, feelings, choices, and beliefs, living from that state when the 💩💩💩 hits the fan is the real money move.

After five months of being adrift, I just wanted my own bed and felt desperate for a home again. 😉

🤦‍♀️ What I see now that I couldn’t have seen then is that I didn’t even need to worry one tiny bit because…it all worked out. And it DIDN’T work out from me figuring it out. 

It worked out as I listened to my body, my intuition, and the quiet inner wisdom that had been there all along.

But my impatience (i.e. fear and controlling nature to secure safety) was definitely pushing to make it happen faster.

As a woman who had MANY TIMES been in the Unknown and come to the other side well-initiated and wiser, I was still holding up an imaginary yardstick measuring my path against others or some perceived place where I thought that I should be.

Back then I had NO BUSINESS growing my business when I had no foundation to grow from.

Looking back, I can see that many women in transition try to build a new life before creating a stable foundation within themselves. I was no different. My nervous system was asking for safety while my mind kept asking for another strategy.

Are you kidding me? My BODY knew that but my conditioned-over-functioning nature just kept running like a race horse who literally doesn’t know how to listen to the cues of her body to stop.

Just. Stop.

My body knew before my mind did. It was asking me to stop long before I was willing to listen.

Learning to Trust the Unknown

Things worked out beyond what I could have ever imagined. We landed in a place that is perfect for us in 100 different ways…a place that wasn’t even on the map of our search and yet, here we are, and it is a joy everyday.

None of this was planned.

None of it was on my vision board or part of my manifestation practice.

(But some serious physical ailments could have been prevented had I not been blowing-out my worry circuitry during that time!)

Why Wisdom Is Different Than Information

Looking back, I can see that Life had a trajectory for me and my only J.O.B. was to follow it. And I could have done it without all of the drama in my mind, physical body, and energy field that got me into every alternative health practitioner that I could find!

But that’s how learning in Life is, isn’t it?

Wisewomaning is understanding that we don’t know what we don’t know until we know it…and the wisewoman EMBODIES THE KNOWING that she has gleaned through the hard times and takes that knowing forward as wisdom.

I find myself in another Unknown again and am listening #1 to my soul and #2 to my body which means it’s going REALLY differently than in the past.

That means…it’s going SLOWLY and there’s a lot of “I don’t know” right now. 🤫😲😬

For me, being supple in a moment of Unknown will serve my soul and my body 10x more than muscling through or figuring it all out.

Wisewomaning is choosing lived wisdom over constant information gathering. It’s trusting the knowing you’ve earned through experience instead of endlessly searching for someone else to tell you what to do.

What Wisewomaning Really Means

Trusting the process is NOT about doing nothing.

It is about actively engaging in the outside world while deeply connecting to the INSIDE WORLD and listening for those pings. <– And if you have never spent much time in your inside world IT’S GONNA BE QUIET, foreign, and possibly boring AF when you start dropping in.

It’s allowing yourself to live in a kind of simmer, while the world organizes itself around you.

Wisewomaning is accessing felt inner wisdom that steadies when a storm comes rather than searching-for-head-knowledge that has you desperately scrolling for answers.

I’m proposing that it is a time to begin to WISEWOMAN our way through life. And yes, I’ve decided that wisewomaning is a verb now. 😉

Following the Quiet Pings

What gets left out when we live exclusively from our heads — especially when your circumstances feel CRAZY — is the wonderous, out-of-the-box doorways offered by God, Source, the Divine, your Higher Self, Inner Wisdom, Ancestral Knowing…whatever you want to call it.

As long as you (and I) stay in the ‘figuring-it-out’ mode, you lose the magick of relating to LIFE with curiosity, suppleness, and trust.

And that means that some essential part of our humanity atrophies and we are disconnected from the organic intelligence that is in us and all around us right now.

Trusting Your Inner Wisdom During Life Transitions

If you’re walking through your own season of uncertainty, wondering what comes next, or finding yourself exhausted from trying to think your way into peace…

Perhaps the invitation isn’t to find another answer.

Perhaps it’s to deepen your relationship with yourself.

This is the work I love most: walking alongside women who are navigating life’s transitions, reconnecting with their inner wisdom, and learning to trust themselves again.

If that feels like the season you’re in, I’d love to connect with you.

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