What would it mean to craft a just-right-life-for-you and then start living in alignment with that just-right-lifeness?

Like…for real and not just something that you SAY during an uplifting coaching session or women’s retreat and then you go back to I’ll-do-it-later-when-I-have-more-time-money-or-sleep?

Learning how to listen to yourself is one thing. Trusting what you hear enough to let it change your actual, everyday life? That’s where things get interesting.

Most of the women in my world right now are leaning heavy into more of their own truth in their lives.

They are:  

• Moving after 20 years in the same city, 
• Quitting secure jobs in order to buy a farm and get closer to the land, 
• Cashing in their retirements in order to follow The Call to start an entrepreneurial endeavor, 
• Divorcing, remarrying and some…opening their relationships,
• Tending to their spiritual practices with renewed vigor,
• Starting sacred women’s circles,
• Starting podcasts,
• Learning to play an instrument,
• Committing to their artistic expression,
• Getting off of The Socials so they can get into their Own Their Lives more.

In other words, they are not waiting around for what they want to fall into their laps…and they also are NOT over-efforting-striving to make it happen either.

They are practicing deep listening to the subtle nudges and soft knowings that are bubbling forward and rather than shushing those nudges and knowings…they are doing the most mutinous thing → listening to them and then following where they lead. 😬

What Happens When You Start Listening to Yourself

Most women I know are becoming more intentional and conscious about how they are investing their time and resources throughout their day.

Some of us have lost friends and family over the last many years awakening us from the forgetting that life is precious and short. 

Some of us feel more turned on and tuned in to the truth that we are here to be CREATORS and not CONSUMERS and are therefore reordering our lives making room for creative-nourishing-nutrient-rich juices to flow.

In a cultural moment where the intense JOSTLING looks like CHAOS but is actually the rumblings before something new rises, we are being invited to pay attention.

Very much like birth.

There seems to be turmoil, death, and bedlam during birthing times when in fact, it is all part of bringing something new into the world.

[My 36 hours of natural labor were bedlam for sure filled with chaos and “get-me-off-of-this-ride” – maybe similar to how you feel in life right now? 🙃]  

Systems are reorganizing and new paradigms are emerging THROUGH US…THROUGH YOU. (yep you…not just me honey, you too.)

It’s a time of pregnant emptiness beckoning us as bringers-of-those-new-paradigms to NOTICE and listen deep so you can tend to your own unique call.

Turn Down the Noise. Tune Into Your Own Knowing.

And I don’t mean that you are being called to radically change everyTHING in your life. I am talking about you TUNING IN to yourself more and more so that you can pick up the unique frequency of *truth* that is ALIVE only in you.

A bit like tuning in an old school radio, carefully adjusting the dial with such precision and care in order to pick up the faint signal THAT YOU KNOW IS THERE. But if there are five people in the room loudly carrying on, you won’t be able to find it.

In other words…if you are tuned into the drama that is happening online-in-the-news-Out-There you will miss the chance to tune into your own station as a moment when your truth matters so much!

FM 103.3 True You

Start small. Before you reach for your phone, ask yourself: What am I noticing? What feels nourishing? What have I been quietly wanting—and immediately talking myself out of?

You don’t have to buy the farm or quit the job. Maybe you need an afternoon without input. Maybe you need to pick up the paintbrush. Listen for the small thing before demanding the entire life plan.

I believe your own station is exquisitely designed to guide you through and to everything in life. It is where Real Wealth comes from → and I’m not talking about dollars in the bank but that is included too.

I’m talking about what wealth FEELS LIKE for *you* when you are not trying to prove yourself, meet some arbitrary goals, or keep up with the imaginary standards that we all know are not REAL.

🤭 We *know* IG-Life-Isn’t-Real-Life but we compare ourselves anyway! 😜

Click click click into your own knowing by tuning your ear into YOU and follow the most (marvelously) mundane and simple truths that emerge from sensations in your body, thoughts that seem to just “drop in”, or uncommon synchronicities to happily emerge in your world.

The simple daily devotion of prioritizing yourself enough to disconnect from all of the Not You Noise out there and exploring what enlivens, nourishes, and makes your being thrum with delight is how you enter this initiatory moment that we are in.

It is how you quite literally begin to birth something new into your life…by living from a different frequency in your life.

The OLD Paradigm is clamoring for you to devote your energy and attention to it (destruction, war, divisiveness, drama, collapses, etc.) and most people will and THAT IS TOTALLY FINE.

Seriously, it is.

A new paradigm is not better (🤯) it is just something NEW. ← And for this girl who LOVES something new, I’m taking it!

Living in the old paradigm of I’m-right-and-you-are-wrong is a perfectly acceptable choice…look around you most people are choosing it. And they are FINE. They have successful lives and businesses and that probably isn’t going to change – regardless of what side they are on.

I’m not about to fall into the trap of trying to tell you that MY WAY IS BETTER! Ha! Same old paradigm! 🙃

The Third Door: Living From Your Own Truth

In a cultural moment reeking of good and bad, right and wrong, “I’m-right-and-you-suck”, there is a 3rd door. An option that is not about sides.

This option is about people (that means you). 

It’s about humanity (and all of the humany parts of you that make up you). 

It’s about dropping in (to yourself) and not dropping out (of life).

The 3rd door is a portal that goes into the earth of your own soul because it beckons you to get quiet the louder the world becomes. It is often a call heralded by those who long for deeper connection and who are hungry for rich meaning in their lives.

Many years ago, I ventured into and beyond the 3rd door in my marriage (and built a community around it), in my business, and in my life…I went first so you didn’t have to.

When my most-favorite-marketing-collab-team suggested that I call myself a TORCHBEARER last year…I ❤️❤️❤️’d it.

But these last few months, I have really UNDERSTOOD why they suggested it.

Making Space for Women to Hear Themselves

I’m a torchbearer for women because I AM WILLING TO GO FIRST.

Actually “willing” isn’t the right word because I am quite literally wired to step toward the unconventional, toward the curiosity, toward the vulnerability, toward the hard-uncomfortable-angsty conversation.

I am NOT HERE to take door number 1 or door number 2 but to explore the 3rd door.

I’ve been this way my entire life but I never realized that it was a thing or that it mattered. I mostly thought that I just wasn’t like everyone else. 😏

Until now.

Practice Listening to Yourself in Ripen

The world is changing, and I am being called to create more spaces where women can get quiet enough to hear the truth that lives in them.

Because you can read about listening to yourself. You can underline the sentence, save the post, and think, YES. THIS.

And then your phone pings. Someone needs something. Your own quiet knowing gets bumped to tomorrow.

Again. 🙃

What happens when you give that knowing an actual place in your life?

A place to show up. To listen. To notice what is asking for your attention—and practice responding.

That is the invitation inside Ripen, my group experience for women.

We gather to practice through meditation, movement, art, journaling, and other ways of listening that reach beyond talking-about-the-thing.

There is room for your questions. Your less-polished parts. The small, persistent nudge you haven’t quite known what to do with.

You don’t need to arrive with a plan to change everyTHING.

Bring yourself. Bring your curiosity. Bring the part of you that suspects there is a more nourishing way to live.

Your own station is still there, honey.

Let’s make some room to hear it.

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